gender binarism

So i was thinking about gender binarism today. It would be futile to argue the genders were not biologically different but i reject that there is a gender binarism culturally, or rather there should be no gender binarism. Being male or female is only one trait of a person (it is so hard to write on this subject - i use trait here to mean one facet of that person's identity but void of any connotation). This is all applicable to race and sexuality and I may draw on them later but for now i shall focus on gender. It seems so obvious, and as i write this i feel it doesn't even need to be said, but being a woman should not in any way influence our impression of a person (the same obviously encompasses sexuality and colour). People see one trait, whether it be gender or colour is unimportant in this instance, and make a judgement based on that. Clearly we are all individuals and should be judged not in relation to people who share similar physical traits to us (though our gender and colour may in part shape who we are due to social conditioning (baby girl’s rooms being painted pink; boy’s blue) or any experience we have had us (beyond any abuse we have taken for something which we had no part in deciding)).

This got me thinking that that didn't make sense though. I, for example, do not like cricket, the sport not the insect, and that view has been formed by my experience of watching and playing separate games of cricket. Though i have enjoyed some of these games they are in the vast minority yet i no longer bother watching or playing the game. I never give it another chance. Think about a type of food you don't like, it's the same, you try - to conform to apparent stereotype i choose sprouts - sprouts over and over from when your mother asked you to eat them all the way through your childhood all the way to...well when? When was the last time you ate one when it was your choice? Likelihood is that you have not eaten one for a long time because of your amassed experience of negative reactions and it is in our nature, and really the way of gaining knowledge (to judge something on a series of experiences about that thing). The difference with cricket though I think is that it is a series of codes which are unique to the game and are more than one criterion, like colour or gender is.

As I said: it seems ridiculous to even have to say this but can we please reject any gender binarism beyond biological factors. In a fantastic Youtube clip Ani DiFranco says “as people we have so much more in common than we have differences”. It is odd to come back to this but can’t we just all agree we are all children of the earth and should be judged as individuals beyond any presupposed ideas of race or gender? Please.